Couples Therapy in California

Couples Therapy

All relationships move through moments of closeness, distance, conflict, and repair. Sometimes, couples find themselves stuck in cycles that feel painful or repetitive, arguments that escalate quickly, shutdowns that create distance, or a sense of emotional disconnection that’s hard to name but deeply felt.

In couples therapy, we slow these patterns down together so we can understand what is happening underneath them. Rather than focusing on blame or “fixing” each other, we work to uncover the deeper emotions, needs, and protective responses that are shaping your dynamic.

    • Difficulty communicating without conflict or shutdown, leading to feelings of disconnection or emotional distance

    • Repeated relational patterns that feel familiar yet difficult to shift, leaving both partners feeling stuck or unseen

    • Navigating major life transitions such as moving, parenting, career changes, or blending families

    • Working through ruptures in trust, including infidelity, secrecy, or past emotional injuries

    • Challenges in sex and intimacy

  • In couples therapy, we slow down reactive patterns so we can understand what is happening underneath them. Often, what looks like conflict on the surface is connected to deeper needs for safety, connection, understanding, or autonomy.

    We work on improving communication so each partner feels more heard and understood, even during difficult conversations. This may include learning how to express needs more clearly, repair after conflict, and stay emotionally present without shutting down or escalating.

    We also explore emotional patterns that may be keeping you stuck, and begin building new ways of relating that feel more intentional, respectful, and connected.

  • My approach is grounded in curiosity, emotional safety, and collaboration. I pay attention to both the emotional and nervous system responses that show up in relationship dynamics, especially during conflict or disconnection.

    I support each partner in understanding their own internal experience while also staying connected to the relationship as a whole. Therapy is not about taking sides, but about helping both people feel seen and creating space for new ways of engaging with each other.

    The work is paced carefully, especially when trust has been impacted or emotions feel heightened.